Where I stand in light of where I came from part 3
How I became a TERF and lessons learned relating to TruTrans allies.
I often wondered, when I saw pictures of Troons posted by Terfs, what it would be like to see someone you know. Yesterday I did and it was really weird.
I did not know him in real life, but had followed and interacted with him for years on a local Facebook group. He was a part time comedian and wrote lyrics about the town where we lived, putting them to tunes of popular songs. I even did one for him on his birthday turning Blondie's Call Me into Gravy… on mi pies.Gi mi gravy any anytime. Wiganers are called pie eaters…and we like gravy😀.
After seeing him in all his womanly glory, I decided to look him up under his dead name. Imagine my surprise when I saw this from less than 5 years ago
That was ME in 2017. Social Justice Warrior. It was 2 yrs later when I found out that the person he was defending was himself.
I ended up moderating the original group shortly after this post. It was not because of the trans issue he was thrown off it. It was because the trans woman was saying they felt suicidal. He was advised very kindly to see his doctor or go to A&E. The admin acted appropriately, as some ppl were being less than sympathetic and it is not the right place to discuss such things. Barry then created a whole shit storm of posts about, what turned out to be, a post about himself. In this “suicidal” state he still managed to rally a whole army supporters and started up a new group doing what the old one did but with NO CENSORHIP. It was having a platform on which to publically vent his struggles with his AGP while pretending to be someone else that was really the issue, but who knew? The new permissive group he started initially allowed awful sexist and racist jokes, because a good number of his new free speech followers were racist and sexist MRA gobshites who had been banned from the first group. He eventually had to turn on approvals for posts lol. CENSORHIP! The main point here, while I never bought into the gender woo, I was all for supporting oppressed minorities. That is how it is for many people. The Trans Movement exploits this, in the full knowledge most people won't look further into it.
I also remember fighting with the MRAs in the Wigan Group about why neutral pronouns in schools were a good idea etc etc but things were changing. Theresa May was about to try to wave through Self ID, stating:
“being trans is not an illness and it should not be treated as such”. (Guardian, 18th October 2017)
Then came Women's Place UK:
While I did not want 'real' transsexuals kept out then, I did not want any Tom, Dick or Harry coming into the women's toilets. I wanted no males in women's refuges however, because I knew how trigging that could be for abuse victims. I still thought that they should be under obligation to find some accommodation for them. I was pretty mild and accomodating in my position. I did not get any abuse but a number of trans identified ppl assured me that they just wanted third spaces and would never dream of going into a women's refuge. Lesson learned. TRAs will say absolutely anything to try to stop you objecting to any legislative reform in their favour. I was nearly convinced by the arguments put forward at that particular time and started think that self ID would be fine as it was just a tiny number of lovely people, who would be hiding away in cubicles not wanting to show any part of the body they hated, in women's changing rooms. Thank God for the male TRA allies. They furthered the Terf Movement more than anyone else lol
I had was a strong supporter and advocate for Jeremy Corbyn and his Labour Party. I belonged to a few Facebook groups and forums. This issue obviously came up in discussion in the more general Labour supporting groups. Many women held more or less the same position as me. Any discussion though was met with abuse from TiMs and the male allies…who were more often than not on the right of the party not the left. Every time a woman spoke up, in they came with their accusations of transphobia and bigotry. They reported her and tried to get her thrown off the forum. I wasn't going to stand for that shit…and all the careful work done by the TiFs disappeared with the arrival of The Boyz. A secret Terf group invited me to join their Facebook Group and that is how a group of censorious pricks helped turn me into the Terf' you see today.
What are the lessons learned that may be relevant to the attempts at forced Tru Trans teaming we see today:
Trans people will misrepresent themselves. This includes Tru Trans.
They believe others are there to validate and support them and will hide these demands under appeals to tolerance and openness.
When they don't get their own way they will attack, lie about you and whip up attacks against you by falsely representing you.
They will openly lie to get you on board and make you less wary in order to further their agenda
Watch out for the racist and sexist attitudes.
Don't trust TiFs as far as you can throw them. They want to be one of the Boyz.
The Boyz will always team together and this is their downfall. Trans and Tru Trans male allies will always expose them for the misogynists they are.
There are people who are out there to further their own agenda, make money, gain influence and power etc. They could not give shit about The Movement and would shut down any part of it that does not boost them personally, or is seen as a threat.
If a female ally runs foul of them, she is often in the right. Women's loyalty needs to be with women as a class.
Be very vigilant. Be wary. Stick to your real feminist principles, and,
Stay Sane Ladies 💚🤍💜
Where I stand in light of where I came from part 3
Great to see you on the chat for the audio convo that Benji & Lorelei held so Stella O'Malley could hear some feedback. She's got sharp teeth and wax-filled ears, the easier to interrupt you, my dear! So proud of Benji of GNC Centric channel for her moderating. Publisher is kind of, almost promising that next week will be the release of my memoir.
Thank you, Lesley. I just heard that a young woman in my town gave up the name Andrew, went back to her original name and is doing well. It was good news.