Sometimes nobody comes out smelling of roses
To come out smelling of roses
According to the Cambridge Dictionary:
to have people believe that you are good and honest after a difficult situation that could have made you seem bad or dishonest
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/come-up-out-smelling-of-roses.
Sometimes no one comes out smelling of roses.
Unintended Consequence:
In 1936, Robert K. Merton listed five possible causes of unanticipated consequences:
Ignorance, making it impossible to anticipate everything, thereby leading to incomplete analysis.
Errors in analysis of the problem or following habits that worked in the past but may not apply to the current situation.
Immediate interests overriding long-term interests.
Basic values which may require or prohibit certain actions even if the long-term result might be unfavourable (these long-term consequences may eventually cause changes in basic values).
Self-defeating prophecy, or, the fear of some consequence which drives people to find solutions before the problem occurs, thus the non-occurrence of the problem is not anticipated.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unintended_consequences#:~:text=In%20the%20social%20sciences%2C%20unintended,Merton
Sometimes nobody comes out smelling of roses.
How to stop oversharing:
“How do I stop oversharing with other people? I feel like I struggle with compulsive oversharing. How do I stop oversharing on social media or when I’m feeling nervous?”
Avoid social media when you feel overly emotional If you want to share news online, try to do it when you’re not feeling extremely passionate about the issuee Whether you feel happy, sad, or angry, ask yourself, how intense is this feeling on a scale from 0-10 right now? If you identify your feeling as higher than a 5-6, wait. Your emotions might be clouding your judgment, which can lead to impulsive behavior.
https://socialpronow.com/blog/stop- oversharing/
Sometimes nobody comes out smelling of roses.
Very true. I know I have made mistakes over the last few years that have hurt others. We are in difficult times and ideally we cut each other slack and extend forgiveness when possible. I have also need to remember that sometimes life is better with the violets and dandelions than trying to hang out with the roses and getting hurt by the thorns.
What Erin and Lesley both said. I've been there, I've done that, and looked back at the chaos and ill-will I helped cause with a lot of regret. What seemed so important at the time just isn't, anymore.